How meditation saved my marriage

My wife and I were weeks away from divorce. Twenty years of marriage falling apart because we forgot how to talk to each other. Everything became an argument. Our kids were suffering. A friend suggested mediation as a last resort before lawyers. I thought it was pointless but agreed. The mediator taught us something simple but life-changing. When my wife says something that upsets me I take a breath and ask myself what she might be feeling not just what she is saying. She does the same. We learned we were both scared of losing each other but showing it as anger. We still disagree but we fight differently now. We actually hear each other. If your relationship feels hopeless please try mediation before giving up.